Friday, January 7, 2011

Square PEG Into a Round Hole

 I was talking about the relationship thingy with my friend over an afternoon...

Me: "Next time hor, if I ever start a relationship again ah, as soon as I detected something is not right, better fast fast quit instead of die die keep trying."

Friend: "Har, you donno one meh match or not match after with the person for so long..."

Me: "Aiyo, people said canot find a person that 100% matching one mah, must try mah, must compromise mah, that's why lah I die die trying..."

Friend: "I think ah, if you need to try change this and that ah, it's not natural anymore...right? Like a square pack peg into a round hole."

That it is! Phrases of the Year! ~ Square Packed Peg into a Round Hole!

Hahhaa... make sense right? You know there is problem already, you know there are things you can't compromise, you know there is this little red flag in your heart that might explode one find day, but you THINK you can fix it... hmnm...

Well... unless I'm married with kid (even without), I shall now know when to quit a relationship already (but donno how to start eh? hahahahaha...) ~ when you have to keep trying, when your partner just couldn't accept the way you are, when you have to change a lot to suit your partner's need, when you cannot be yourself, when you feel wronged all the way, when you are always stressed... its time to say Good Bye...

p.s. hehe... thanks to Bananaz to correct my mistake, its Peg not Pack :P

14 comments:

FaiTh said...

I agree with your friend. When you love someone, you have to accept their everything. If you try to change him/her to another person, might as well ask them to look for the other person instead.

Its not easy to find someone that know what's on your mind, that can understand you even when u are not talking, that can click well with you... If you ever find one, pls treasure and love him/her with all your heart.

Bananazஇ said...

路遙知馬力,日久見人心 is this correct 'spelling' of the Chinese character? [am using dictionary to assist me]. It is not easy to know a person in a short time but guess have to learn to accept him/her else would be *charpo* [teapot] trouble. Of course you have to be yourself and not to change as himself then you are not yourself anymore aahhhh...confused you already haha ~;).

Casendra said...

Faith, that's why I m so in love with myself... Hahaha

Eh Bananaz, your Chinese not bad le! Not so banana :P ya lo agreed agreed, hehe, be myself!

Jean said...

你50%+他50%= 這就是100% perfect match!!!

如果用你的方式思考另一半我建議你選擇單身吧!其實這樣也很不錯滴!^^

Casendra said...

Jean, 我还真的单身呢。呵呵,随缘咯 :)

RealGunners said...

we need to adapt, not change..

and hor.. once u started, usually is difficult to just walk away 1 la.. how much emotions you already put in, say leave then leave meh?

Casendra said...

Hey RealGunners, a lot of times we just tolerate tolerate without solving the issue, but if this is the case, the relationship will be very easy to break, how many years you can tolerate? I won't say its easy, but, to suffer short is better than long term right?

Difficult doesnt mean we cannot, just a matter of wether we want to do it or not only.

Am not sure what other people are looking for in a relationship, but for me, first thing firs, the person has to accept what I am lo... no? :P

mememe said...

hmmmm.....

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Jeff Tan said...

you get the point.. when you cannot be yourself. but have you ever think about what you actually are?
We tend to find the BEST person who can bring us all the joy, who can know us very well, but does BEST person exist? maybe just in our imagination.
对不起,胡言乱语。

Casendra said...

Jeff, I always know what I am and who I am, and I am not looking for the best, I am just looking for someone who love and accept what I am. If you get my point here. Hahahahaha

Lonewolf said...

Every relationship need compromises. Even a square peg will not fit perfectly into a square hole. Both the peg and the hole have "sand paper" and etch off some parts of themselves to make it fit.

As I say, both have to meet in between and not one party etching itself. This is called the bonding process and both will get to know each other more.

Square peg into round hole is abit too much etch away for both parties... better find another...

Casendra said...

Brother, you are too logical lah ==' (eventho it seriously make sense :P

Let see how :) I wouldnt opt for a person that needed too much of an adjustment :P no patient de..

Lisa717 said...

dear, just go with the flow if you found some1 who could be ur MR.Right ya^^ don't think too much and don't be hesitated.. I'm sure god will find a perfect guy for you~~~ Wish u the best of luck o^^ hugzzzzzzzzz~~

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