Showing posts with label [随想记] Pieces of Mind. Show all posts
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Thursday, January 24, 2013

2013 年第一壮举 - Calling AirAsia 2 Hours

 
这是亚航的团购销售线,看,我等了近两个小时都没人接电话,周围同事听那个on call的音乐听到快疯掉了,同场有另外两个同事看我等到那么可怜也帮忙抢线,形成一个小小的surround system,不过最后他们还是挂线了(结果旁边那个90年代的小弟连打字都无法集中精神。。。可怜到。。。)
 
可是我就是不甘愿,没有理由等了那么久才挂线嘛,所以就拍个照放上亚航面子书消遣下时间,结果。。。突然有人 'Hello .....'
哇,简直好像中大奖那样!所以啊,坚持是有成果的,今年就多一个学习项目,坚持坚持吧!
 
This is AirAsia's group sales line, see, I've been waiting almost 2 hours but still no one answer, my colleagues almost gone crazy for hearing the on call music for such a long time.  Another 2 colleagues see me so miserable die die waiting, so they also help to call the number hoping can get through the line (which made a surround sound in the office... and the 90's boy sitting next to me... poor guy, can't even focus to type...) but at the end they also put down the phone...
 
But then, since I've been waiting so long, couldn't just hang up like that right? Must wait! Die die waiting... and snap this picture to upload onto AirAsia's facebook page for passing time...
 
Suddenly... 'Hello....' Wah.... someone actually really answer the phone! I was like... yes yes, I wanna make booking!
 
Persistancy! Yes, this is something I gotto learn from this year onwards! 

Friday, November 2, 2012

住院记 Hospitalization

九月十日,入院。向来对日期不敏感的我,会记得住院做手术的原因是。。。第二天看了一整天的九一一回顾新闻。。。 @@
10 Sept admitted for minor surgery. I usually couldn't remember the dates, but this time... I was watching the 911 review news the next day in hospital the whole day... that's the reason...
多得Nicole送我入院,办住院手术,一起等待那geli的一刻,再等到我出来,再把我安置妥当才离开,真的感激不尽,否则还真的蛮凄惨。。。
Thank you Nicole, for sending me to hospital, admission, wait for the time to come, and even after... otherwise, it could be quite miserable....

之前之后。。。这个时候手比脚痛,烂医生不会插管打点滴,护士又麻木的等医生指示,结果我痛了一天。。。
Typical before and after... see, the hand was more painful than the leg at the moment.  This is the result when you bump into a lousy doctor... best was -- the nurse even refuse to take it off even I don't need it anymore, because no order from doctor. I was like... what the hell?

这次高调入院,所以好友同事‘无所遁形’,轮流探病。。。可怜哦。。。
This time being high profile so friends can't escape but to come visit... hahaha... kesian...

在医院聚会。。。 @@
Gathering in hospital...

这家伙还在病房里学用拐杖呢!不是同学都不敢那么‘兴奋’eh?
This fellow ah... even learn how to use crutches in the room, guess only schoolmate can be so 'excited' eh?:P

伙食还可以哦。 Food not bad leh...

就只能躺着看出窗外。。。想象下这辈子就只有这个景色,还是感恩目前拥有的吧
Handicap's view, can only lye on the bed and watch out...imagine this is the only view you have for the rest of your life... be grateful and appreciate what you have man...

猪头医生加猪头护士,绷带连包三天的后果。动刀不哭反而痒到哭,够衰咯。。。
基本上微创手术是可以连绷带都不需要包的,唉,只会收钱的私人医院,如果有下次,我会自备剪刀。。。
Stupid doc+stupid nurse+stupid patient+bandage wrapped for 3 days = super rashes. See I never cry over the minor surgery but this itchiness... really stupid... @@ IF there is next time, I'll prepare my own scissors lo...

一转眼就两个月了,好不容易啊!除了得积极面对,强迫自己锻炼要尽快可以自由走动,真的好像没什么其他选择哦(除了装弱,不过这个不管用,不是千金嘛)
Blink blink eyes already 2 months, really not easy! And there is nothing I can do besides staying strong and positve, counting the dates that I can try walk without crutches.. woo... another milestones achieved!

感谢每个给与帮助和关心的亲戚朋友,没有你们啊,这段日子会更‘够力’咯!
Thanks for care and help my dear friends & family, otherwise, life would be really really tough for these 2 months...
 

Thursday, June 28, 2012

沟通方法之一 One Way of Communication

就是画公仔咯。记不记的前一阵子很热的画图猜字游戏?其实那很考表达能力的,画工可以不美,最重要是有没有本事表达出那个字的意思,和怎么表达。

为了尽量避免不愉快的事情发生(安装错误啦,涂错颜色啦,然后和装修承包商吵个半死,再很不甘愿的给‘尾数’)在口述一轮之后,我还是花了点时间粗略的把自己的意愿话了下来。这样就不必‘心挂挂’活挂心。当然这并不保证100%无误,不过做了本分还是有出入的话就即来之,则安之咯,吵都没用。最多讨个折了事,大家都好过。

其实我觉得做人有时候‘芹菜’(cincai)点,是真的会比较开心点的。哈哈哈。。。

Is to draw lo.  Remember few months back the very heat smartphone game – Drawing? Actually that game really require a strong ability to express, otherwise people definitely don’t know what you are trying to tell (e.g. a fish but you draw a fillet, how?).
So, to avoid unfavourable incident happens on the reno (wrong electrical point lah, wrong piping position lah, wrong colour on the wrong wall etc etc, then fight and argue and don’t even wanna pay … grr) I just draw down what I told the contractor so that they don’t have to crack their head to recall what I said, and I don’t have to worry if they remembered what I said. Of course by doing so I can commit there will be 100% error free, but at least chances is lower and even if it does happened – since I already do my part, just let it be lo. Maybe can ask for some discount but fight till ‘face black black’ is definitely not my preferred way lo.
Actually sometime if we choose to be ‘cincai’ a bit, I think we’ll definitely be happy a lot lo.  Kan? :P


Wednesday, June 13, 2012

车卡不见了怎么办? Lost of Car Registration Card - How?

可怜咯!哈哈哈。。。不过还是得解决对不?其实很简单,解决方案如下:

1)复印两长身份证
2)填好JPJK7表格 JPJK7 (也可以到JPJ登记处拿,因为第一页是无法下载的。不过如果事先下载填好的话,再填首页就会快很多)
3)准备50大元罚款
4)好好的等咯

起先问朋友该怎么办,都说如果不让跑腿帮忙的话可能得去Puspakom验车,所以最好让跑腿做(要多付50大元)。因为还没有时间去找跑腿,所以就在网路上看看有没有其他方法。机缘巧合之下,看到一位部落客分享了同样的经验,竟然可以自己来哦!所以今天趁着午饭空档,跑去PJ的JPJ试一试,结果 ~ “我得左啦!”

哈哈哈。。。是可以的!希望这个小资讯可以帮那些有需要的人省下50大员咯。不过当然,最好不要弄丢咯。不要问我为什么我的会弄丢,因为我自己也不知道。。。

Kesian lo... Hahaha... but then we gotto solve it right? So, very easy, just do the below:

1) Photostat your IC for 2 copies
2) Fill up the JPJK7 form JPJK7 (but you also can obtain this from JPJ office). Do take note that there is one front page we can't download, so when you take the number ticket, tell them you need a form submit geran hilang (or just say geran hilang), they'll give you a set of the form, and it's the first page that we miss out from the internet.
3) Prepare RM50 for the penalty
4) Just wait patiently until your turn lo.

At first I thought need to go puspakom to check out the car bla bla bla, and I also called and ask my friend how, he also advise if do it personally, might need to go Puspakom. So better get runner help (but I still need to go there personally) with extra RM50 payment to runner.

BUT, when I browse around for further information, I saw this blogger share out the same topic, without the hassle to go to Puspakom.

SO, today I just tried it out and Yes! I made it! Thank God Thank God!

Hope this little info helps those needed to save RM50 lo! But best is don't lost it. How I lost mines? Donno, don't ask, coz I myself also donno how it went missing... grr...

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

做莫用人家的东西? Why use other people's stuff?


一切从买了间二手屋开始。啊不,是间屋主留下很多家具的二手屋。

包括电器,沙发,杯子,汤匙,橱柜和一张条件依然非常好的超大号的双人床垫(没有下陷,没有污迹,没有脏印,没有异味-当然我没有像小狗那样去嗅那床垫,不过近距离时,我没有感觉不妥)

当很多人知道我打算接收前屋主的杯子,汤匙,和床褥时,有趣的事情发生了。

60-70年代生,没有含着金钥匙出世,稍微"挨过"打拼过,但现在都有一番成就或日子算安稳的朋友的反应如下:

本尊:我省很多叻,那床垫最少千多块以上的。
60-70年代生友人:你确定用那床褥啊?嘿嘿,没异味??
本尊:没有喔,而且我买了床垫保护层,加上去就好咯。
60-70年代生友人:哎呀,那很好啊,你"拾到"啦。。。
80年代生的同事,刚巧都稍微有点家底,或不必扛家,享受生活的他们的反应如下:

80年代生同事aiyerrr, 做么要用人家的东西??!!买过啦!(一副厌恶不肖的样子)
本尊:那么新,丢不下手叻,而且我买了床垫保护层,加上去就好咯。
80年代生同事tsk, 你不觉得很脏的咩?不噁心? 给人家啦!捐出去然后买过啦!不要用人家用过的啦aiyerrr...

被第一轮袭击时我还顶着那么一点耐性企图让他们明白因由,不过在不同的时间经过几个回合的交手后,我终于明白根本是浪费气力,忍不住还击:

1)噁心?肮脏?那你们旅行睡酒店时又是什么?几百个人睡过,"搞过",不是更噁心?你们都带自己的床垫去旅行的?

2)那你们在外面餐厅用餐时不噁心?你又怎么知道人家有把餐具都洗干净?分分种几百个人用过,不是更肮脏?

3)自己觉得噁心的东西就"捐"出去做慈善?拜托,人家是不幸,但不是乞丐,难怪先进国都把些落后的东西丢到发展中国家,就是你们这种种心态啊(ok这句还没说出口)

不过依然是同一个反应:不同嘛,yiyerr

Yiiyerrrr....yii 什么屁?!!)

同样的事情在两个(错,是三个)不同年代的人的反应竟然是那么的南辕北撤。一方让我看到尊重和体谅,一方让我看到时下年轻人的意气风发,就是觉得自己是对的,别人的意愿根本不是什么。

这应该就是所谓的代沟吧?还是,纯粹是贫与富的环境洗礼下所产生的态度?

无论如何,八字辈的好命人,如果你不小心看到这篇文章而觉得不忿的,请速撤离,也莫留言,因为本小姐没兴趣听。

对,我超级霸道,因为,这里是我部落格,我的地头,你不能接受但你也无权过问,明白了吗?

Everything starts from a second hand house. Oh correction, a fully furnish second hand house.

Including electrical items, sofa, cups, bowl, wardrobe and a very good condition king size mattress (no subsidence, no dirt, no saliva or other spooky marks and neither it is smelly, well of course I didn't smell it like a doggy but at least I don't smell anything in close distance)

And so, when people get to know that I'm going to "inherited" the cups, spoons, and mattress of the previous owner, something interesting happened.

60-70 era born friends, those who were not born in a rich family, who for once work hard to fight for a better living and are now having a better/more settle lifestyle, reacted as below:

Myself: eh I jimat a lot leh, the mattress at least need thousand over leh.
60-70 era born friends: eh you sure you wanna use the mattress ah? Hehe, no strange smell?
Myself: no woh, somemore I bought a mattress protector, thick one, put on top then settle lo.
60-70 era born friends: like that ok la good, save a lot...

However, those colleagues who born in the 80's, who coincidently from a good condition family background (which generally we can't quote them "the poor"), not the bread winner of home, and already have the capability & freedom to start enjoy life response as below:


The 80's colleague: Aiyerrr, why use other people's stuff? Buy a new one la! (showing disgust face)
Myself: so new, can't persuade myself to throw it leh (here refers to the mattress). Somemore I bought a new mattress protector, put on top settle la.
The 80's colleague: tsk, aiyerrr, don't you feel that it's very dirty meh?? Not Disgusting meh? Give to other people, or donate out and buy a new one la! Don't use other people's stuff la, aiyerrr

During the first round attack I still patiently explain & try them make them understand why, but unfortunately after few rounds of attacks from diff batch of 80's in different timeline, I come to understand that it’s just waste of time, and thus I shoot back:

1) Disgusting? Dirty? Then what happen to you guys when u all go travel? Hundreds of people slept on the bed & even "hanky lanky" there, isn't it evn more disgusting? So you all bring your own mattress to travel?

2) And what happen when you guys having meal at the restaurant?? How many people put the same spoon that you use in your mouth before?? How sure are you that they washed it thoroughly & wash it clean? Isn't it felt more dirtier??

3) things that you felt disgusting you give to others or 'donate' out? Hello, people are just less fortunate, they are not a worthless beggar ok? No wonder the developed country likes to throw the old technology stuff to the developing country, this is the mentality huh?? (ok this one I haven't say it out)

Still, same reaction: it's diff mah, yiyerr

Yiyerr (Yii my ass meh?!)

Same situation but the reaction from the 2 (correction, 3) generation are poles apart. One demonstrate respect and understanding, another shows such an high-spirit that see no others but own feeling & thinking, what's in your mind doesn't really matter to them.

Is this what people called generation gap? Or solely the attitude that cultivated from the poor & the rich family background?

ANYWAY, to those fortunate 80's, if you so happens to see this post by chance and feel no good, I would advise you to leave immediately & don't leave a comment ok? Coz I'm not interested to see neither debate.

Yeap, this is me, overbearing and 'lan si', as here is my blog, my place, even if you don't like it, somehow you've no right to question it, understand?

Sunday, January 22, 2012

新年快乐! Happy Chinese New Year !

年二十九咯,祝大家身体健康,事事顺心,平平安安,大吉大利!

CNY Eve finally! Wishing everyone healthy, wealthy, safe & sound, 'smooth' and prosperous!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

都收到了!All Received!

日历收到了!明信片收到了!清迈的可爱杯杯收到了!谢谢你们!

祝大家在来年幸福快乐,顺心顺意!

Calendar Received! Post Card Received! Gift from Chiang Mai Received! And all are from the great bloggers!

Thank you guys! Wishing you all a very blessed year ahead! Muaks! Hahahahaha

Saturday, December 31, 2011

再见 Bye Bye 2011, 欢迎 Welcome 2012!

今年啊,算是蛮戏剧性的一年。感谢背叛者赐予的教诲之外,当然,更加感恩身旁的好友默默的陪伴。这一年,见证了‘友谊得经的起时间的考验’和‘日久见人心’的金句。

有人说,2012年考验更堪,不论迎面而来的是什么,让我们一起积极面对吧!记得,日日是好日!

我敬佩的部落客们,虽然大家都不知道大家是谁,不过,我很感谢你们的文章和留言,因为你们,我宅女的人生可生色不少哦!谢谢!

2011 considering a drama year for me. Thanks to the betrayer who tought me a valuable lessons that made me a smarter person (like), but I'm even more greatful to my real dear friends who always be with me as and when needed. This year, I witness the golden sentence that 'friendship must be able to stand the test of time' & 'Time will tell'... (Bananaz/LG, pls pls help correct these 2 sentences if its not right ya... hehehe, brain damage, pakai google translate ==|)

People said 2012 will be tougher. Regardless what's lying ahead, lets face it with positiveness & happiness! Day day is good day!

Last but not least, thanks to all the 'never met each others's blogger (besides LG), thanks for your article & comment, you guys made my single 'homely' life much more interesting!

终于找到我喜欢的香草了!香蜂草,欢迎你!
Finally found a plant with great aroma to welcome 2012! Welcome Lemon Balm!

试试看水种可不可以传宗接代。。。目前为止还可以哦!
Wanna try and see if can plant in water...so far so good oh

削了大半天的‘芽菇’,到露台透透气时,看到了个很漂亮的晚霞。希望新的一年也会很漂亮。。。
Been working on the 'nga gu' crackers for the whole noon till evening. Saw this beautiful sunset...hoping 2012 will be as beautiful & colourful as this sunset as well...

新年快乐!
Hapy New Year!

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

27.12.1978

鸟友人:你知不知道 1978年的12月27日是什么日子啊?
无辜的我:Har? 什么日子?
鸟友人:是你满月的日子啊!啊哈哈哈哈。。。。
无辜的我:@#$%^&*&^%$#@!$%^&^%$# 王八蛋。。。

呵呵呵,这家伙就是喜欢喜欢来损我一下娱乐自己,还沾沾自喜。。。不过还真的每次都给这鸟女打败,惨啊!哈哈哈。。。
可是,我也觉得蛮幸福的,因为这鸟女可是十多年的损友,不可多得。所以偶尔牺牲小我一下也是值得的,毕竟也只有这种朋友才会在开心和不开心的时间想起你吧?

愿以此文,特别奉献给我可爱的鸟女友人。。。

Notty friend: Do you know 27.12.1978 is what occasion??
Innocent Me: Har? What occasion was that??
Notty friend: Its your fullmoon!!!
Innocent Me: @#$^&*&^%$#@$%^&^%$#@ damn... cilaka...#$%^%$#@

You see ah, this birdie notty friend ah, used to 'appear' in msn and kacau me so that she can get entertained and happily went off continue her work. Aiseh, tapi memang everytime she win...poor me!
Hehe, but think about it, actually it is kind of sweet and 'fortunate' to have such a friend eh? Coz this women ah, almost 20yrs old friend already! So sacrificed myself a bit bit occasionally still worth it right?
Most important, only such an old old friend will think of you whenever he/she is happy or not happy... Appreciate it!

Special dedicated to my 'birdie' girl friend...

Monday, December 12, 2011

你敢不敢开门? Do You Dare To Open The Door?

"Aunty Aunty 开门!开门!救救我!救我!"一个半赤裸的中国籍女子惊慌的拍打着我堂姐的邻居的门,惊动了整个六楼的住客。

老妇不敢开门。老妇的儿子不敢报警,怕坏人趁他不在时骚扰老妇。

中国籍女子被捉回同楼的单位内。

次日,中国籍女子再次逃跑,在另一个住着夫妇的单位窗外求救。

夫妇依然不敢搭救,但这次,他们报警了。

可是,中国籍女子也跳楼了。

因为,警察竟然把这可怜的女子硬生生的送回那男人那里,把这起案件当做"一般的家庭纠纷处理",妄顾女子惊恐的反应,妄顾这明眼人都知道是逼良为昌的烂勾当。

听说男人当晚被释放,连夜搬走。

一个被骗到南洋淘金实际卖淫的悲剧竟然活生生在眼前上演,一个本来不应该再在二十世纪发生的悲剧,也似乎开始在马来西亚活跃起来。

老妈知道女子下场之后心情久久不能平复(之前只知道女子求救,但不知道还有下文),她说,最低限度她会报警。而我,则在想,如果这女子拍的是我家的们,我又敢不敢开门呢?

我想,如果我开门的话,接下来的日子我应该不敢回家,或不敢出门吧? 这一刻,我觉得自己很可悲。而现在我可以做的,就只能希望这女子早登极乐,更希望我永远没有机会遇上这个"开不开门" 的恐怖的抉择。。。

"Aunty Aunty open the door! Help me, help me please!" a half naked Chinese lady knocked at my cousin's neighbor's door, screamed for help in horror, alerting the whole 6th floor's residents.

The old Aunty don't dare to open the door, neither do the son dare to call the police, afraid that the "bad guy" will disturb his mum while he was away.

The Chinese lady was being dragged back the unit.

Next day, she tried escape again and ended up outside another unit's window that own by a couple.

Don't dare to let her in as well. But this time, they reported police.

But also, the Chinese lady choose to jump off from 6th floor, to end her nightmare.

Because, the police choose to hand her back to the man she was trying to escape from, ignoring her fear & horror reactions, shivering & trembling when she saw the man, ignoring that this is pretty obvious another case of human trafficking.

The man was being released the same day, and shifted out the same night.

A tragic that seems doesn't belong's to this 20th century is once again active & alive back in Malaysia. It took me some time to accept this.

Mummy felt bad when she heard the 2nd part of the story (as we only know she cried for help but we didn't know the next day she committed suicide), and I was wondering - do I dare to open the door IF the Chinese lady was knocking on my door??

Seriously I don't know. And if I were to open the door, I guess the following days I would either hide inside the house, or don't dare to go back.

At this particular moment, I felt very pathetic for myself, and I wish this lady move on to her next life without bumping into all this horrible persons anymore.

And I pray I will never come across this horrible situation where I have to decide wether I shall open the door or not...

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

30 Second Speech by Bryan Dyson - Former CEO of Coca Cola

I was doing housekeeping of my emails and found this...kept for a year, and I do think it is good to share.

Special dedicated to workaholic and those who has no time for other stuff besides work...

Friday, October 14, 2011

A Phoenix in the Sky 自由翱翔的活凤凰

我很喜欢望想天空,因为它让我觉得很舒服。很羡慕云朵,因为,它总是可以很自由的随着自己的心意呈现出不同的形态。

前天傍晚,我看到一只火凤凰,让我好想跟着她一起飞。。。

I like to look up to sky, as it always make me feel comfortable. I admire the clouds coz they always present themself in whatever form they like...

I saw a phoenix a day before while I was jogging...Wished I can fly with her...

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

当你可以狠狠地发脾气时。。。

代表你身旁有着一群包容性高强的人物存在

或者

有着一群飞禽走兽肆无忌惮的来惹毛你要你狠狠地修理它们一顿

又或者

它代表着你有一些没安顿好的隐性情绪在蓄势待发,等你毫无防备时杀你个措手不及,让你千年道行一朝丧。

再者

你可能是受人拥戴的万人迷,或者是某个豪门贵族的掌上明珠,让人恨得来又不得不向现实低头乖乖忍受~尤其是那些吃你粮银的人。

如果以上皆非,那可能你纯粹是个没教养的人而已。没什么的,不必太介意,因为人家迟早会把你当成透明的。

Friday, September 30, 2011

久违的衬衫 The long adsence shirt...

这衬衫少有三年没‘发市’,原因很简单 ~ 因为我超讨厌烫衬衫,而且穿起来一点都不舒服,绑着绑着那样,唉,反正就是不爽。

不爽还穿?哈哈。。。今天要‘见客’,所以咯,人在江湖啊,难。

不过,一天不到最后,一天都不知道我将会‘死’在哪家公司的。。。走着瞧吧。。。哈哈哈。。

I hardly wear shirt. Given a choice, I will definitely not wearing it. Put aside the hassle of ironing it, its just so uncomfortable to me.

And today I am wearing this shirt - after... more than 3 years? Hahaha... reason is very simple, I've gotto attend an external meeting.

It's just so uncomfortable. Physically and mentally.

What does this uncomfortable feeling tells?

Clearly, it is telling me loud that ~ look dude, this just ain't what you like and what you want.

Me: Ok noted. But... still need it for a living mah, will change whenever got chance ok?

Shirt: Ok...


Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Lion as a Pet ~ Christian the Lion

Back to the 60's in England, people can actually had all these protected animals as pet… and this Lion & the 2 loving masters was really a legend. It was just beautiful and amazing. A lion can remembered his human friends after a year’s separation, can you believe it? Wow..

Find out more in youtube by typing in ‘Christion the Lion’.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

学不会

近年来听了不少男性朋友的女友的事迹,听的我嗤嗤称奇,总是觉得为什么那些奇事不会(几率近0。001)发生在我身上。

给头期买车子啦,投资搞些小生意啦,心甘情愿买名牌包包或纵容购物啦,全费旅行啦,赶死赶命接送啦等等等等。嘿,讲的,都是会驾车会赚钱甚至是有家底的成年女生。

是性格所致呢,还是这种男人永远不会被我遇上?还是太独立或自尊心高?还是不会‘撒娇’ 使手段?哈哈哈。。。真的是值得研究。

可能我是被动的吧,总觉得要开口或用些小手段得到手的东西都有点那个。。。所以啊,通常我会‘等’ 男人自动自发的做些什么,我去旅行你要给pocket money固然好,但是要我开口暗示或明示恐怕等到下辈子都学不会。

算啦,人到无求品只高(有没有一点酸酸的味道啊?哈哈哈。。。),我还是觉得当你没有要求什么又突然收到爱人的‘心意’时才是最棒最自在的。

Thursday, August 25, 2011

阳光的一天 A Warm Sunny Morning

运动真的是个很好的发泄和淨化自己的方式。昨天还闷闷的,傍晚跑了半个小时流了一身汗之后,顿时觉得整个人都松了。。。

今天早上觉得阳光特别暖。。。

Exercise really a great way to release tension & cleansing our body & mind. I was feeling one kind yesterday and went run for half an hour after work. After the sweat, man the world become brighter and nicer! Hahaha...

It's a very Sunny & Warm morning today... at least this is how I felt... day day is good day!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

就是不能做好人 Just Can't Be Nice

其实我真的是属于有礼貌有礼教的那一类的。我也知道大家都是找两餐,所以通常我都不爱为难别人,通常在正常的情况下我还超级他X的客气。但是偏偏就是有人爱欺善,以为你乖乖的就好欺负、欺骗、压榨。

抱歉咯,你好惹不惹来惹我,警告后还不懂得收敛我会要你死得很难看。我的空起来还会跟你周旋到底,要斗,我绝对不会输,所以最好乖乖给我滚开。

You see I really can be a nice person and I normally am a nice person. I know we all just working for life not much work for fun, so I usually tend to be very considerate. But some people just like to take advantage even thought that this idiot - me, really nice to bully.

Ok lah maybe I'm easy to be cheated but you better don't let me find out ok. And if I ever sound you, you better behave and get off, otherwise, I'll make sure you'll be very very sorry about what you did or what you plan to do.

So human, don't you ever try to take advantage or cheat again ok. I'm gonna make u OFF.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

三毛、亦舒、卫斯理

前阵子下载了很多书,包括以上三位作者的。

中学时看过三毛的《随想》集,超喜欢,喜欢她的精简,喜欢她的真。若干年后的我再翻看这本书,才惊觉她对我的影响。我看到了一些很熟悉的句子和字眼,一些我在生活上不知不觉用上的字句甚至态度,来自这本书。

就只这么一本,其它的都没看过,《沙哈拉的故事》(还是《哭泣的骆驼》?啊,记不起了)在三毛过世后看了几页,然后就把书关上了。可能是那时的我太多愁善感吧,作者对丈夫的思念好像都很容易从书中的字句被感觉到,很是伤感。

难怪老妈怕我自杀,叫我不要看那么多(因为我当时还买了介绍作者的特辑,铺满黄色玫瑰的封面,灰色的,三毛微笑的照片)。我也曾经在灰色地带徘徊很久吧。

亦舒呢? 哈,看过她的作品的人不用我讲都知道是什么回事了。

还记得亦舒有很多写实旧作品都是血淋淋的,看了简直想自杀。不过,我对生活的部分抵抗力好像也是从这里练回来的。所以我心情不好时绝对不碰亦舒的书,就怕选到一本现实到不可以的。。。还记得她这么写过:

1)当一个人问你问题时他其实已经准备会得到两个答案 - 正面和负面。所以,不必害怕拒绝别人,因为当你答‘NO’的时候,其实,这也是预料中的答案之一。

还不是? 

结果它成了我做人的准则之一。是就是,不是就不是,不要婆婆妈妈。

2)“没时间”只是一个借口。如果你愿意的话,再怎么忙,你都会有办法抽出时间来做你要做的事的。 

当时心里怔了一下,认同。

从此之后尽量减少用“没时间”这个烂借口。宁可说“不愿意”,“不想”,“懒惰”,“看看如何吧”,都不用“没时间”。。。

所以,当某某说“我忙”时,我会问“谁不忙啊?”
当某某再说“没时间”时,我会一句丢过去“没时间就找时间--FIND TIME”

唉,难怪要‘塞灶缝’(canton - sip zou la)

不过前阵子再看亦舒的新作品,啊,笔风有点不同了。虽然依旧现实,但是多了很多正面的气息,依旧是我喜欢的。

心情不好又想看书时,我的最佳选择是 ~ 倪匡(卫斯理)~ 一个任何时候都可以放心去看他的书的作者。天马行空的来又好像真的可以用科学去解释的内容,简直令我心服口服。

我怀疑,他是外星人。一个俗达的外星人。。。

Sunday, June 26, 2011

批评和建议

昨天在星周洲副刊教育版上看到了一篇觉得非常贴切管用的文章 ,探讨为什么父母总是在批评,如何按耐不住迫不及待的把自己的人生经验传给孩子好让他们走少一些‘冤枉路’而忽略和剥削了孩子选着做事情的方式。

不是想把人心当狗肺,只是,当父母提议的同时,是不是也应该让孩子有选着的余地?可能孩子的方式更适合他们自己呢?个人觉得这道题不单是亲子关系该探讨,对朋友和身边的人也一样。且来看看其中两段文:

文 一:
“管”,很多时候就带着批评--你这样做不好,不对,不够聪明:带着不信任--我觉得你肯定做不好;带着不平等,按我的方法来做才是更好的。

文二:
你为什么不?
批评是批评,指责是批评,比较也是批评。 还有一种隐性的批评也值得警惕,就是 “你为什么不。。。?
你为什么不减肥啊?你为什么不去健身房啊?你为什么不结婚啊?你为什么不找一份薪水更高的工作?你为什么不让小孩练钢琴啊?最近还被朋友很有创意的问,你这么有才华,为什么不做一份更能发挥才干的工作?
貌似是一个关心的建议,而背后的潜台词是,你完全可以更好,但你竟然没有做到,说明你还不够努力,你还不够好。
(以上两端取自星洲副刊-快乐家庭)

我个人是不抗拒别人给于建议,但是,我也希望当建议不被接受时,建议者会试着了解为什么,试着聆听,而不是一句‘硬颈’ 、‘固执’ 就抛过来。因为这样不是建议,而是看似客观的隐形命令了。

同样的如果别人以不一样的方式完成一项动作,我们是不是也可以先按耐着自己,让别人去探讨自己的方式,然后才给于意见呢,甚至不给于意见而是给于肯定?

就如英国作家劳伦斯提出的教育三原则(也是取自报章):
一,别管他
二,别管他
三,别管他

当然,对某些过于关爱孩子和身边的人来说,这举动要拿捏得当,比登天还难。我们,是不是也在不知觉中,犯了这毛病?

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